Allan Stanford LAC LAMFT

Let's Fight: A Conflict Observed

Let's Fight: A Conflict Observed

Healthy marriages don’t have an absence of conflict. We are going to hurt each other. The two feet of bed space between the backs of a hurt couple can feel like an unbridgeable chasm. Every marriage experiences the pain of conflict. I am often amazed at how quickly and easily my own heart can turn from fondness and admiration for my wife to frustration, accusation, and even contempt. But here’s the crazy thing, when we use conflict to move us toward vulnerability instead of isolation, conflict becomes and instrument of intimacy in our marriage rather than a vessel of destruction.